Sometimes reality is impossible to face. It's scary and deliberate and enticing and dangerous and unsure and unsettling and exciting and confusing and oh so much more. All the feels, for sure.
What's real is that life is short. We're not promised tomorrow, we all know that. But sometimes, it's easy to take things (and people) for granted. It's easy to get caught up in all the planning and activities and weeks of work and weekends of family and fun, that we take for granted that we're blessed to even wake up in the morning. Instead, we expect it. But the reality is that life is short, and instead of getting caught up in to-do lists and the stress of work, we need to be thankful for all we have, including another day with our loved ones.
What's real is that people hurt. Suffering is part of life and whether it's big or small, it still hurts. Don't belittle someone because you think your pain is worse than theirs. You don't know what battles people are fighting. And even if you do, be kind. Because we definitely need more kindness in the world with all the bad that's around us.
What's real is that change is inevitable. It's literally impossible for change NOT to occur. We all know that, right? But what we can control is how we react to the change. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not very good at handling change. I like to know things, and when change happens, that goes out the window. It's the unknown and it scares me. However, I'm working on it and feel that I'm really making progress! Hey, it's possible!
What's real is that people matter. Although it takes some life experience to truly understand this (speaking from experience here), it's one of life's most important lessons. People matter. It's easy to get caught up in the materialistic things in our lives, but people are what truly bring joy and happiness. And honestly, you just never get "enough" time with the people you love. So, make time for your loved ones and cherish every minute you get!
What's real is that happiness is a choice. I'm not on of "those people" that are constantly telling you why you shouldn't be upset about something or always be looking for the silver lining of a situation. Feel how you want/need to feel. That's my motto (or it should be haha). However, I am a firm believer that you have a choice for everything that is thrown your way: good, bad, or otherwise. You have a choice on how you react to each and every situation - you can choose to wallow in self-pity and stay upset and miserable about something or you can put one foot in front of the other and choose to see the light at the end of the tunnel and everyone around you, supporting you. It truly is a choice. And an important one at that.
What's real is the little things. If you know me, you know that "the little things" is something I'm so unbelievably grateful for and a believer of. Yes, it's nice to be schmoozed or surprised with a fancy getaway or gift or car or house or whatever. A Parisian vacation? I'm on it! However, life happens in "the little things". In the daily interactions you have with your family, in the chaos of holiday madness, in the weekends hanging out with your grandparents...it's there. It's those moments that you'll reflect back on and that will make you truly happy. The big, fancy things will make you happy too, but that happiness fades. If you're not in love with "the little things" in your life, it often brings misery and pain and longing for more or better or different.
What's real to you? Are you in love with your reality?